Adoption is a long and tedious process. I was well aware of this even before we started this journey. But you're never truly aware how everything goes at a snail's pace until you are in it.
We've been in Home Study Limbo for quite some time now. We started our home study the last week of January and finished our interviews on February 23rd. In my heart I thought it would all be done by mid-April. However, being a sensible person I gave myself an extra month before I would start to fret. When our social worker finished the draft in record time, I allowed myself a little hope that things might proceed faster than expected. I only have one thing to say about this: never have expectations. Expectations lead to disappointment, which leads to driving your husband crazy with the whining! :-P So here we are today, May 22 and I don't know when it will all get done. Once the Powers That Be approve the home study, it still has to come back to us to get notarized and then back to Saint John where our entire dossier will be put together and finally sent off to our adoption agency. Only once the adoption agency receives the dossier will we be officially on the international waiting list. It's when you're standing still that the waiting becomes the most difficult. I can't even begin to imagine how the children in care are feeling... waiting for their forever family, or waiting for the next foster home, or waiting for their birth parents to get it right. Everyone waits in adoptions.
We were also supposed to start our Provincial home study today. However, it has been delayed due to scheduling issues. If it's anything like the international home study, we won't be done until December. Ugh. More waiting. I guess the only thing we can do is stop standing still. Stop waiting for our lives to start and start living. I guess that means I should get off the computer and go do something, huh? :-)
- Danielle
We've been in Home Study Limbo for quite some time now. We started our home study the last week of January and finished our interviews on February 23rd. In my heart I thought it would all be done by mid-April. However, being a sensible person I gave myself an extra month before I would start to fret. When our social worker finished the draft in record time, I allowed myself a little hope that things might proceed faster than expected. I only have one thing to say about this: never have expectations. Expectations lead to disappointment, which leads to driving your husband crazy with the whining! :-P So here we are today, May 22 and I don't know when it will all get done. Once the Powers That Be approve the home study, it still has to come back to us to get notarized and then back to Saint John where our entire dossier will be put together and finally sent off to our adoption agency. Only once the adoption agency receives the dossier will we be officially on the international waiting list. It's when you're standing still that the waiting becomes the most difficult. I can't even begin to imagine how the children in care are feeling... waiting for their forever family, or waiting for the next foster home, or waiting for their birth parents to get it right. Everyone waits in adoptions.
We were also supposed to start our Provincial home study today. However, it has been delayed due to scheduling issues. If it's anything like the international home study, we won't be done until December. Ugh. More waiting. I guess the only thing we can do is stop standing still. Stop waiting for our lives to start and start living. I guess that means I should get off the computer and go do something, huh? :-)
- Danielle